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  • Spiritual Wellness: Nurturing Your Inner Self for a Fulfilling Life

     

    Spiritual wellness is an area of wellness and self-care that I value highly. Having grown up in the church, going to seminary, becoming ordained, working in a church and now having left the church, I have a complicated relationship with religion. 

    However, spirituality, the knowledge that there is something bigger and greater than myself that is holding me in love, has been ever present. Spirituality doesn’t necessarily come easy. I am distracted and overwhelmed with my day to day tasks, so anything “spiritual” usually takes a back seat.

    That was until I read The Practice of the Presence of God by Brother Lawrence. In the short book, Brother Lawrence describes the very secular task of washing dishes at the monastery. It was in this seemingly mundane task that he discovered that everything was in fact sacred. In this book he says, “Lord of all pots and pans and things… Make me a saint by cooking meals and washing up the plates”.  There is no separation between sacred and secular. I decided that my everyday life is in fact sacred. 

    However, spiritual wellness does need to be fostered and cultivated. Nurturing our spiritual wellness is crucial for leading a balanced, meaningful, and fulfilling life. In this comprehensive guide, we’ll explore the concept of spiritual wellness, its impact on our overall well-being, and practical tips to enhance your spiritual health.

    What is Spiritual Wellness?

    Let’s start with a definition. What is spiritual wellness? First, it is important to know that spiritual wellness is not relegated to religious beliefs, practices or attendance at church services. Rather, spirituality comprises meaning, purpose, and connection with all things. It includes understanding ourselves, others, our world, our participation in life, and a relationship with something greater than ourselves. 

    This can involve certain truths, beliefs and practices, but they do not necessarily need to be tied to an institution or religious tradition.

    Spiritual wellness involves:

    1. Cultivating a sense of purpose and meaning in life

    2. Developing personal values, ethics, and beliefs

    3. Fostering connections with others and the world around us

    4. Practicing self-reflection and inner growth

    5. Seeking harmony between our inner selves and the external world

    Remember spiritual wellness does not require attachment to a specific religious tradition. While religious practices can absolutely contribute to your spiritual well-being, many people find spirituality through nature, meditation, art, service, music, or personal ideology.

    The Impact of Spiritual Wellness 

    There are many benefits to promoting spiritual wellness that can improve overall health, quality of life, happiness and connection. Below is an overview of what happens when we are spiritually well and when we neglect this crucial aspect of our well-being.

    When You Are Spiritually Well

    1. **Sense of Purpose**: A strong spiritual foundation provides a clear sense of purpose and direction in life. Being spiritually well can allow you to feel more motivated and driven to pursue your goals and make a positive impact on the world.

    2. **Emotional Resilience**: We all know life can be difficult. Having a healthy spiritual life can enhance your ability to manage life’s challenges and uncertainties. Spirituality can help you develop a greater capacity for love, forgiveness, and compassion, both for yourself and others.

    3. **Inner Peace**: Cultivating spiritual wellness leads to a deeper sense of inner peace, and contentment. A robust spirituality can better equip you to handle stress while maintaining tranquility.

    4. **Improved Relationships**: Spiritual well-being fosters stronger connections with yourself and others. Developing a healthy spiritual foundation can encourage empathy and understanding, which cultivates more fulfilling and connected relationships.

    5. **Enhanced Creativity**: A spiritually well person often experiences increased creativity and resourcefulness. When you’re more connected to your spirituality you allow for personal growth, and innovation. You tend to be more open to new ideas and perspectives.

    6. **Better Physical Health**: Studies have shown that spiritual wellness can lead to improved physical health, including lower blood pressure, reduced stress levels, and better overall well-being.

    7. **Gratitude and Joy**: Spiritual wellness cultivates a deep sense of gratitude for life’s experiences, both positive and challenging. This philosophy leads to increased joy and satisfaction in daily life.

    When You Neglect Spiritual Wellness

    1. **Lack of Direction**: Without a strong spiritual foundation, you may feel lost or aimless in life. This can lead to a sense of dissatisfaction and unfulfillment.

    2. **Increased Stress and Anxiety**: Neglecting spiritual wellness can result in higher levels of stress, anxiety, and depression. You may struggle to find meaning in difficult situations or cope with life’s challenges.

    3. **Disconnection**: A lack of spiritual wellness can lead to feelings of isolation and disconnection from others and the world around you. This can negatively impact your relationships and overall sense of belonging.

    4. **Poor Self-Esteem**: Without a strong spiritual foundation, you may struggle with self-worth and confidence issues. This can hinder personal growth and limit your potential.

    5. **Difficulty Coping with Loss**: Spiritual wellness provides a framework for understanding and coping with loss and grief. Without this foundation, you may find it more challenging to navigate these difficult experiences.

    6. **Lack of Inner Peace**: Neglecting spiritual wellness can result in inner confusion and a constant sense of restlessness. You may struggle to find contentment and peace in your daily life.

    7. **Limited Perspective**: Without spiritual growth, you may find it difficult to see beyond your immediate circumstances. This can lead to a narrow worldview and limited personal development.

    Tips for Enhancing Your Spiritual Wellness

    Now that we understand the importance of spiritual wellness, let’s explore practical ways to nurture and enhance this crucial aspect of your everyday life.

    1. Practice Mindfulness and Meditation

    Incorporating mindfulness and meditation into your daily routine can significantly boost your spiritual wellness. These practices help you cultivate present-moment awareness, reduce stress, and connect with your inner self. Start with just a few minutes each day and gradually increase the duration as you become more comfortable.

    “Meditation doesn’t make you happy. Following your heart makes you happy. But meditation makes it easier to follow your heart.” ~ Light Watkins 

    There are many apps. to help integrate mindfulness and meditation into your daily practice. Calm, Headspace and brain.fm. 

    2. Connect with Nature

    To begin, watch the sunrise or sunset, take a walk in the park or plant a garden. Spending time in nature can be a powerful way to nurture your spiritual well-being. For more advanced nature lovers, give forest bathing a chance. Being in nature can allow us to put our lives into perspective, and feel connected to all things. 

    3. Engage in Self-Reflection

    Self-reflection is one of the best ways to practice spirituality. When you more fully know yourself you can more fully connect to your values, beliefs, experiences, and desires. Try journaling, therapy, or spiritual direction. 

    4. Cultivate Gratitude

    As Meister Eckhart says, “If the only prayer you ever say in your entire life is thank you, it will be enough.” Anyone can practice gratitude. It is simple yet powerful. When I first started a gratitude journal I had trouble thinking of three things I was thankful for but within a few weeks I had pages. The more you pay attention to the things we are grateful for the more gratitude you will experience. I love The Gratitude Journal. It encourages you to take a few minutes in the morning and in the evening. 

    5. Explore Your Values and Beliefs

    Make time to explore, clarify, deconstruct and reconstruct your spiritual beliefs. Read books, listen to podcasts, attend workshops, practice service, and engage in discussions with others who share similar interests. Understanding your core values provides stronger spiritual wellness. 

    6. Practice Forgiveness

    Marianne Williamson says, “Forgiveness sets us free. “Unforgiveness is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.” Are there grievances you are holding on to? Wrongs that have plagued your consciousness? People who are unforgiven? There is no time like the present to let them go. Remember forgiveness does not mean doesn’t mean condoning harmful behavior or remaining in toxic relationships but rather it is freeing yourself from the burden of resentment and anger.

    7. Engage in Acts of Kindness and Service

    Serving others and performing acts of kindness can significantly boost your spiritual well-being. Look for opportunities to volunteer in your community, help a friend in need, or simply perform random acts of kindness. Service fosters connection with others and the world around us. It reminds us of our interconnectedness. 

    8. Explore Creative Expression

    Everyone is an artist. Everyone has creativity within them. Engaging in creative activities can be a powerful way to connect with your inner self and express your spirituality. Maybe it’s painting, writing, dancing, sculpting or photography. Take a stroll through your local craft store. See what sparks your interest. It’s all about expression and discovery. 

    9. Practice Yoga or Tai Chi

    Mind-body practices like yoga and tai chi can help you cultivate spiritual wellness by promoting physical, mental, and emotional balance. These practices usually include the practices of mindfulness and meditation, further enhancing their spiritual benefits.

    10. Join a Supportive Community

    Community is necessary. If you’re not interested in joining a religious community, you can join a meditation group, book club, yoga class, or social justice cause. Connecting with like-minded individuals can provide support and encouragement on your spiritual journey. 

    12. Practice Mindful Eating

    An easy way to incorporate mindfulness is to practice mindful eating. There are several times a day in which you can apply this practice. Pay attention to the flavors, textures, and colors your food provides. This is also an easy activity for kids. Practice family mindfulness at dinner time. You can share your findings and thankfulness together. 

    13. Explore Different Spiritual Traditions

    While you don’t need to adhere to a specific religion to be spiritually well, exploring different spiritual traditions can broaden your perspective and provide valuable insights. Read about various philosophies, practice different beliefs, or visit places of worship. A great book to check out is Holy Envy: Finding God in the Faith of Others by Barbara Brown Taylor. 

    14. Set Intentions

    Start each day by setting positive intentions. This practice helps you align your actions with your values and purpose, fostering a sense of meaning and direction in your daily life. Reciting a mantra can help keep you centered. I love these Positive Affirmations Cards

    Conclusion

    Spiritual wellness is broader than just going to church. It can be incorporated into all of life. Nurturing your spiritual wellness is a lifelong journey that requires dedication, patience, and self-compassion. By incorporating these practices into your daily life, you can cultivate a deeper sense of purpose, inner peace, and connection to the world around you. Remember that spiritual growth is a personal and unique experience, so feel free to explore and adapt these suggestions to fit your individual needs and preferences. Keep what fits and throw out what doesn’t. Embrace this journey of self-discovery and inner growth, and watch as your life transforms in beautiful and meaningful ways.

  • Kick Ass Books By Kick Ass Women for Kick Ass Women 

    Kick Ass Books By Kick Ass Women for Kick Ass Women 

    Kick Ass Books By Kick Ass Women for Kick Ass Women 

    I am a big reader. Okay clarification: I am a big audiobook listener. I love hearing innovative ideas, experiences, stories and advice, especially from other women. Every time I listen to a new book, I am inspired to try something that I never would have thought of before.  

    I know, you don’t have a ton of time. And it can be so frustrating to pick up a book only to find a flat, run of the mill, uninspiring narrative. Don’t fear. I have created a curated list celebrating fierce, talented female authors who craft stories and ideas to inspire, entertain, and challenge you.

    The books below (that I have personally read) are handpicked for women who dare to dream big, live boldly, and embrace their inner badass. Get ready to fill your bookshelf or audible library, with stories that resonate, empower, and ignite your passion! 

    Hot tip…a lot of the authors narrate their own books. Which, let’s be honest, just makes the audio version that much better. Below I highlight those audio books. 

    Okay let’s get started: 

    1. Anything by Brené Brown. Seriously. I love Brené’s books and her Netflix special called The Call to Courage and her famous TedTalk, The Power of Vulnerability.  However if I had to pick one book to get you started I’d have to say, The Gifts of Imperfection

    In “The Gifts of Imperfection”, Brené Brown explores the concept of “wholehearted living”, which involves embracing one’s imperfections, vulnerabilities, and authentic self while cultivating courage, compassion, and connection. The book provides a guide to overcoming shame and developing self-worth by letting go of societal expectations and learning to accept oneself fully, with Brown arguing that true worthiness comes from believing you are good enough exactly as you are.

    Hot tip…Brené narrates the audio version. 

    1. The Perfectionist’s Guide to Losing Control: A Path to Peace and Power by by Katherine Morgan Schafler 

    The Perfectionist’s Guide to Losing Control” by psychotherapist Katherine Morgan Schafler offers a fresh perspective on perfectionism, challenging conventional wisdom. Schafler introduces five distinct types of perfectionists: classic, intense, Parisian, messy, and procrastinator, providing a nuanced understanding of this trait. Rather than advocating for the elimination of perfectionism, the book presents it as a potential strength that can be harnessed productively. Schafler’s approach encourages perfectionists to embrace their nature while learning to channel it effectively, transforming it into a powerful asset for achieving personal and professional success.

    Hot tip…Katherine narrates the audio version

    1. Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert

    In “Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear”, Elizabeth Gilbert explores creativity as a magical, living process where ideas are independent entities seeking human collaboration, encouraging people to embrace their creative impulses without fear or judgment. The book provides insights into living a creative life through six key elements—courage, enchantment, permission, persistence, trust, and divinity—and argues that everyone has the capacity to be creative by following curiosity rather than being paralyzed by fear.

    Hot tip…Elizabeth narrates the audio version. 

    1. The Pivot Year Perfect by  Brianna Wiest 

    “The Pivot Year” is a collection of 365 daily meditations designed to guide readers through a transformative journey of self-discovery and personal growth, encouraging them to embrace the present moment and develop emotional resilience. Through short daily reflections, Brianna Wiest helps readers uncover their authentic selves, challenge societal expectations, and make meaningful changes by focusing on internal fulfillment and self-awareness.

    1. Beloved by Toni Morrison

    Set in post-Civil War Ohio, Beloved tells the story of Sethe, a former slave haunted by the traumatic memory of killing her own daughter to prevent her from being returned to slavery. When a mysterious young woman named Beloved appears, seemingly the embodiment of Sethe’s dead child, she becomes an increasingly destructive presence that forces Sethe to confront her painful past and ultimately leads to her community’s intervention and healing.

    Hot tip…Toni narrates the audio version. 

    1. Untamed by Glennon Doyle 

    Untamed is a powerful memoir chronicling Glennon Doyle’s journey of breaking free from societal expectations and discovering her authentic self, particularly through her transformative experience of falling in love with Abby Wambach and challenging traditional gender roles. The book serves as a galvanizing wake-up call for women, encouraging them to uncover their true voice, reject “good girl” conditioning, and live a life of genuine self-acceptance and personal freedom.

    Hot tip…Glennon narrates the audio version. 

    Additional hot tip…Glennon also has an accompanying journal. I have worked through this journal with a group of girl friends and it makes the book not only become more alive but also it helps me to remember the invaluable lessons Glennon teaches in her book. So grab some friends and dive in! 

    1. American Detox: The Myth of Wellness and How We Can Truly Heal

    by Kerri Kelly 

    In “American Detox,” Kerri Kelly exposes the toxic underpinnings of the wellness industry, revealing how it perpetuates systemic inequities rooted in perfectionism, white supremacy, and individualism. The book challenges readers to move beyond self-care and personal wellness, advocating for a collective approach to healing that prioritizes equity, social justice, and the well-being of entire communities.

    Hot tip…Kerri narrates the audio version. 

    Additional hot tip…Follow Kerri on Instagram. She posts some very inspiring posts. 

    1. The New Menopause: Navigating Your Path Through Hormonal Change with Purpose, Power, and Facts by Mary Claire Haver MD 

    Dr. Mary Claire Haver’s “The New Menopause” is a comprehensive guide that empowers women to navigate the hormonal changes of menopause by providing science-backed information and strategies to manage symptoms and health risks. The book offers a toolkit for understanding and addressing the physical, psychological, and medical challenges of menopause, emphasizing that while the transition is inevitable, suffering through it is not. 

    Hot tip…Mary Claire narrates the audio version. 

    Additional hot tip…Dr. Haver has created the Galveston Diet to help balance hormones, burn fat and cultivate energy. I have tried a number of the recipes and they are easy and delicious! 

    1. Quit Like a Woman: The Radical Choice to Not Drink in a Culture Obsessed with Alcohol by Holly Whitaker 

    Okay so you might not be struggling with alcohol but Holly brilliantly challenges society’s normalization of alcohol by revealing its toxic impact, particularly on women, and arguing that drinking is a systemic problem rooted in marketing and cultural conditioning. Through her personal journey of recovery, Whitaker offers a feminist alternative to traditional addiction recovery methods, advocating for a holistic approach that addresses root causes and empowers individuals to reclaim their lives without alcohol. 

    Hot tip…Holly narrates the audio version. 

    1. The Awakened Brain: The Psychology of Spirituality by Lisa Miller 

    Dr. Lisa Miller’s book explores how spirituality is a universal human capacity that can be scientifically measured and is linked to enhanced mental resilience and reduced risk of depression. Through research involving MRI studies and personal narratives, Miller demonstrates that an “awakened brain” allows individuals to perceive the world more fully, fostering a sense of connection and providing protection against mental health challenges. 

    1. You Are a Badass Series 4 Books Collection Set by Jen Sincero (You Are a Badass, You Are a Badass at Making Money, You Are a Badass Every Day & Badass Habits) 

    Jen Sincero’s “You Are a Badass” book series is a motivational self-help collection designed to help readers transform their lives through self-love, mindset shifts, and personal development. The series is characterized by Sincero’s humorous, irreverent writing style, offering practical advice with a mix of personal stories, exercises, and motivational techniques. Her core message emphasizes self-love, taking risks, and creating a life you truly love. 

    Hot tip…Jen narrates all 4 books in the audio versions! 

    1. Girl, Wash Your Face: Stop Believing the Lies About Who You Are So You Can Become Who You Were Meant to Be by Rachel Hollis

    “Girl, Wash Your Face” is a motivational self-help book by Rachel Hollis that challenges women to stop believing negative lies they tell themselves and take control of their own happiness. The book explores 20 different lies women commonly believe, using Hollis’s personal stories and experiences to encourage readers to unlock their potential, pursue their dreams, and become the best version of themselves.

    Hot tip…Rachel narrates the audio version. 

    1. The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self by Martha Beck

    In “The Way of Integrity”, Martha Beck argues that psychological suffering stems from living out of alignment with our true selves, and she presents a four-stage process inspired by Dante’s Divine Comedy to help individuals rediscover their authentic path. By challenging false beliefs, committing to personal truth, and making incremental changes, Beck suggests people can achieve inner wholeness, emotional healing, and a life of genuine happiness.

    Hot tip…Maria Shriver narrates the audio version. 

    1. Women Who Run with the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype by Clarissa Pinkola Estés

    This is a must read! “Women Who Run with the Wolves” is a transformative exploration of the Wild Woman archetype, revealing the innate, powerful, and instinctual nature within women through a rich tapestry of intercultural myths and fairy tales. Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estés uses psychological insights and folklore to guide women in reconnecting with their deep, creative wisdom and reclaiming their authentic, wild feminine spirit.

    Hot tip…Clarissa narrates the audio version. 

    1. Becoming Wise: An Inquiry into the Mystery and Art of Living by Krista Tippett

    Krista Tippett’s “Becoming Wise” is an illuminating exploration of life’s profound questions, drawing from hundreds of conversations with diverse thinkers across disciplines to uncover the raw materials of wisdom: words, flesh, love, faith, and hope. The book offers a nuanced, hopeful vision of human potential, emphasizing the importance of generous listening, compassion, and the ability to hold seemingly opposing realities in creative tension.

    Hot tip…Krista narrates the audio version. 

    Additional hot tip…Krista hosts a fabulous podcast called On Being. She has many conversations with thought leaders from all over the world about wisdom, spirituality, culture and more. Krista is a thoughtful host with amazing guests. 

    This should be enough to get you started. As I continue reading, I will continue to share what I discover. But until then, get reading (or listening). 

    Hot tip…jot down the gems you find. You can keep a journal of quotes, reflections or ideas it sparks. The Audible app allows you to save, edit, and share audio clips from audiobooks. 

    Happy Reading! 

    Chelsea

  • The 6 Best Red Light Therapy Masks to Make Your Skin Look Vibrant, Young, and Bright!

    Red light therapy has emerged as a revolutionary skincare treatment, offering a plethora of benefits for women seeking to enhance their beauty routine. Read all about red light therapy, the benefits and how to use it here (link informative article here).  

    With the rise in popularity of LED face masks, many are turning to these innovative devices to combat signs of aging, improve skin tone, and promote overall skin health. In this blog post, I will explore the six best red light therapy masks for women, each designed to deliver professional-grade results from the comfort of home.

    These masks utilize specific wavelengths of light—primarily red and near-infrared—to stimulate collagen production, reduce wrinkles, and even tackle stubborn acne. Whether you’re looking for a quick boost before an event or a long-term solution to skin concerns, there’s a mask tailored to meet your needs. From luxurious options favored by celebrities to budget-friendly alternatives that don’t compromise on quality, we’ve compiled a list that caters to every preference and budget.

    Join us as we delve into the features, benefits, and user experiences of these top-rated red light therapy masks, helping you make an informed choice for your skincare arsenal. Get ready to glow and embrace healthier, more radiant skin!

    1.Project E Beauty Skin Rejuvenation Photon Mask 

    About this product: 

    Positive Points:

    • Offers 7 LED light colors, each targeting specific skin concerns (e.g., red for anti-aging, blue for acne control) 1.
    • Non-invasive, painless treatment suitable for all skin types 5.
    • Easy to use with adjustable settings and a rechargeable battery for convenience 14.
    • Noticeable improvements in skin tone, reduced breakouts, and enhanced collagen production after consistent use 14.

    Negative Points:

    • Eye socket area can feel uncomfortable due to pressure 1.
    • Full benefits take 2-3 months of regular use to become evident 1.
    • Tight fit may not suit all face shapes initially, though it could loosen over time 1.

    2. NEWKEY LED Face Mask Light Therapy

    About this Product: 

    Positive Points:

    • Clinically Proven Wavelengths: Red light (625nm) for anti-aging and blue light (465nm) for acne treatment are effective and safe over time.
    • Noticeable Results: Users report reduced wrinkles, softer forehead creases, even skin tone, and 88% acne reduction after 12 weeks.
    • Convenient Use: 10-minute sessions, 3 times per week, with enhanced results when paired with skincare products.
    • Improved Skin Confidence: Better makeup application and overall glowing skin.

    Negative Points:

    • Consistency Required: Results depend on regular and long-term use.
    • Limited Features: Focuses only on red and blue light therapy compared to other masks offering multiple light options.

    3. Aphrona® | Moonlight 3 color LED Facial Mask Skin Care Mask

    About this product: 

    Positive Points:

    • Effective Skin Treatment: Targets fine lines, wrinkles, acne, and discoloration with red, blue, and green light therapy.15
    • FDA-Cleared: Approved for safety and effectiveness, suitable for sensitive skin.12
    • Convenience: Includes features like auto shut-off, easy cleaning, and compatibility with skincare products.15
    • Durable Design: Scratch-resistant pearl powder coating and 1-year warranty with a 60-day money-back guarantee.15

    Negative Points:

    • Not Wireless: Requires being plugged in during use, limiting mobility.5
    • Limited Light Colors: Some versions only offer three colors (red, blue, green), unlike other masks with more options.4

    4. 7 Colors Led Light Therapy Facial Mask

    About this product: 

    Positive Points:

    • Versatility: 7 light modes target various skin concerns (e.g., wrinkles, acne, pigmentation) with specific wavelengths. 12
    • Comfort: Flexible silicone material, adjustable straps, and lightweight design ensure a snug fit for all face shapes. 13
    • Eye Protection: Includes eye pads to prevent discomfort during use. 12
    • Portability: Foldable and rechargeable for convenient use anywhere. 13

    Negative Points:

    • Consistency Required: Results demand regular use (3-4 times weekly for 4-6 weeks). 12
    • Usage Limitation: Cannot be used while charging for safety reasons. 1
    • Potential Eye Sensitivity: Users with certain eye conditions or light sensitivity should exercise caution. 

    5. iDerma LED Mask

    About this product: 

    Positive Points:

    • Clinically proven technology
    • Short treatment time
    • Covers entire face and neck without eye or mouth cutouts
    • No direct skin contact, providing a more hygienic treatment
    • Suspended light array for full-face coverage
    • Includes protective goggles and adjustable headband1
    • Comfortable design
    • No cords required
    • Requires only 8-minute sessions 3x per week

    Negative Points:

    • Individual results may vary
    • Requires consistent use

    6.Lovsheme LED face mask 

    About this product: 

    Positive points:

    • Utilizes clinically proven wavelengths (850nm, 630-660nm, 470nm) for various skin concerns15
    • Targets fine lines, wrinkles, acne, and inflammation25
    • Suitable for all skin types2
    • 10-minute sessions deliver up to 70mW/cm² of energy1
    • Three adjustable modes and user-friendly remote5

    Negative Points:

    • Individual results may vary
    • Requires consistent use
    • Limited reviews 

    FAQs

    1. Does red light therapy actually work?
      1. Yes! While results may not be considered drastic, red light therapy has been shown to improve overall skin appearance including smoothing wrinkles, lowering inflammation, stimulating collagen production, improving skin hydration and elasticity. 
    2. Is red light therapy safe?
      1. Yes! Red light therapy is considered a non-invasive procedure that can be safely used at home, providing you follow all instructions. 
    3. How long do I have to use a red light therapy mask for it to be effective?
      1. 10 – 30 minutes is typically enough time to experience the effects of red light therapy masks. Each red light therapy mask may have different requirements regarding the amount of time needed to be effective. Make sure to read all instructions when using your red light therapy mask. 
    4. Can you overuse a red light therapy mask?
      1. Yes. While overuse does not result in serious side effects, it is possible to overuse red light therapy. Overuse can result in mild skin irritation. It is best to follow all instructions when using a specific red light therapy mask.
    5. Are there any downsides to using red light therapy masks?
      1. Yes. While not serious, there can be downsides to using a red light therapy mask. This includes mild skin irritation, eye impairment, and hyperpigmentation. These side effects are rare and easily avoidable if you follow the proper red light therapy protocols. 
    6. Is there any downtime after using a red light therapy mask?
      1. No. Red light therapy is considered a non-invasive and safe procedure that anyone can do at home. It is recommended to stay out of the sun and to avoid harsh skin products (like rough exfoliator, strong acids, and retinoids) following the use of a red light therapy mask.
  • The Power of Pen and Paper: How Journaling Can Transform Your Life

    I know what you’re thinking. How can I possibly carve out time to journal? What’s the point? What would I even write about? I know you are thinking these things because a few years ago, I thought them too. Journaling felt like one more thing to add to my daunting and growing “self-care” list. 

    That was until I read Julia Cameron classic book The Artist’s Way. In her revolutionary work about unlocking creativity to live a more meaningful and connected life, Cameron talks about “Morning Pages”. This is the daily practice of free flow writing for the length of 3 pages. 

    At first I thought, I do not have enough to write about for 3 pages every day. The first few days I started every morning writing over and over again, “I have nothing to write, right now.” And then the gates of thought that had been trapped in my innerworld opened and I began to write ferociously. I had no idea that so much was inside me. Every day I had new insights, ideas, inspirations, emotions, and memories pour out onto my 3 pages. 

    This tool of journaling has become a staple in my self-care and morning routine. It has allowed me to connect with my deeper, more hidden self, it has helped me to navigate difficult situations, and it has provided a guided time of stillness into my busy days. 

    Journaling can feel daunting yet it is a simple and transformative ritual that can bring about clarity, growth and healing. All it takes is a journal, a pen, and some commitment. Give it a month and see what happens. Let’s dive deeper into the many ways journaling can help you thrive, one page at a time.

    Why Journaling is Beneficial for Women

    Emotional Release and Mental Clarity

    One of the primary benefits of journaling is its ability to provide a safe space for emotional expression. I often feel as if I am juggling multiple roles and responsibilities. Having an outlet to express my thoughts and feelings without judgment is invaluable. Journaling has allowed me to pour out my emotions onto the page, helping to process through my feelings and gain mental clarity.

    By regularly writing down your thoughts, you can develop what psychologists call a “coherent narrative” of your life. This process enables you to integrate your experiences into your overall perspective, fostering a more positive and holistic view of yourself and your place in the world. 

    Stress Reduction and Anxiety Management

    For me the ritual of journaling has been incredibly calming and meditative. When I focus on writing, I am fully present in the moment, which helps alleviate stress and anxiety. Research has shown that regular journaling can lead to a reduction in stress-related doctor visits and lower blood pressure

    If you are trying to manage anxiety, journaling can be especially beneficial. It provides an opportunity to identify past traumas, triggers, track symptoms, and develop coping mechanisms. By externalizing distressing events onto your journaling pages, you can create distance from anxieties, allowing for a more objective view which often leads to positive results.

    Enhanced Self-Awareness and Personal Growth

    Journaling is a powerful tool for self-discovery. I have found that with consistent journaling, certain patterns come to light such as taking things too personally, being quick to blame others, and catastrophizing situations.  As you write, patterns in your thoughts, behaviors, and emotions might emerge. You can catapult this self-awareness into personal growth and positive change.  

    Journaling can be useful when you are working to align goals, values, and purpose. As you reflect on your time various things can come to light such as areas for growth, purpose in life, and ways you can focus your energy and intentions so that you can life a more full and meaningful life. 

    Improved Physical Health

    Surprisingly, the benefits of journaling extend beyond mental and emotional well-being. Studies have shown that regular journaling can boost immune function and improve overall physical health. The act of writing about stressful events can help you process them more effectively, reducing the negative impact of stress on your body.

    Creativity and Problem-Solving

    Journaling serves as a safe arena to cultivate creativity. Julia Cameron believes that all people, no matter what vocation, are artists. Journaling can help to spark joy, creativity and innovation. One of the benefits of journaling is that the writing process can remove barriers to creative blockages. The free-flowing nature of journal writing allows for unexpected connections and insights to emerge.

    Additionally, journaling can serve as an effective problem-solving tool wherever you are faced with difficulties. The writing process can allow you to investigate the issue from a variety of angles so that you can gain new insights and discover solutions you might not have seen before.

    How to Start Journaling

    Now that we’ve explored the benefits, let’s discuss how to begin your journaling journey.

    Choose Your Medium

    The first step is to decide what you’ll write with. While traditional pen and paper have their charm, digital journaling apps can be convenient if you are looking for a way to journal on the go. It is important to choose a method that you’ll enjoy so that you can consistently practice your journaling. 

    Set a Routine

    Consistency. Consistency. Consistency. It is crucial that you develop a strong journaling habit. It is helpful to find the same time each day. Are you a morning person? Write while enjoying your morning cup of coffee. Are you a night owl? Journaling can be the perfect way to wind down as you reflect on your day. Linking journaling to an existing habit can ensure that it becomes a staple in your daily routine.

    Start Small

    You don’t have to jump into 3 full pages at the beginning, especially if you are new to journaling. Start with writing one sentence a day. Just get into the habit. As you continue and journaling becomes a staple in your routine, start adding more. Gradually explore further. Write more, dig deeper, be curious, expand each day. You’ll be surprised how writing just one sentence can elicit much more thought. 

    Be Authentic

    No one is reading your journal. When I first began writing, I wrote as if my journal would someday be published. Big mistake! Self-awareness, reduced anxiety, and personal growth will be hindered if you are writing for someone else. Your journal is only for you. Be honest. Don’t censor yourself. Forget about perfect grammar or spelling. I am a terrible speller. At times I can get hung up on spelling everything correctly and my thought process gets off track. I’ve learned now just to keep writing. If you really need to, you can always go back and make corrections. Just remember the goal of journaling is authentic self expression. 

    Experiment with Different Techniques

    There are so many different ways to journal. Bullet journaling, gratitude journaling, reflection, creating lists. Experiment. Try out the variety of approaches to journaling. Some women prefer stream-of-consciousness writing, while others might benefit from structured prompts. Any form of journaling is beneficial. You can even switch it up day by day. 

    What You Need to Journal

    The beauty of journaling is that it requires minimal supplies. Here’s what you’ll need to get started:

    A Journal

    Choose a notebook that inspires you. Whether it’s a simple composition book or a beautifully bound leather journal, pick something that you’ll enjoy using. You can also use a guided journal such as The Five Minute Journal or The Self-Love Workbook for Women.

    Writing Tools

    A good pen or pencil is all you need. Some women prefer colorful pens or markers to add a creative touch to their journaling practice. I love this cute mechanical pencil set or these awesome fine point pens. These no bleed through, smudge proof markers are great too! 

    A Quiet Space

    Find a comfortable, distraction-free area where you can write without interruption. This could be a cozy corner in your home, a local café, or even a park bench.

    Optional Extras

    While not necessary, some women find that items like stickers, washi tape, or colored pencils can make journaling more enjoyable and creative.

    Journal Prompts for Women

    To help you get started or overcome writer’s block, here are some journal prompts tailored for women:

    1. What are three things you’re grateful for today? 

    2. Describe a moment when you felt truly empowered. What contributed to that feeling?

    3. If you could give advice to your younger self, what would you say?

    4. What does self-care mean to you, and how can you incorporate more of it into your life?

    5. Write about a woman who inspires you and why.

    6. What are your top five personal values, and how do they guide your decisions?

    7. Describe your ideal day from start to finish.

    8. What limiting beliefs are holding you back, and how can you challenge them?

    9. Write a letter to your body, expressing gratitude for all it does for you.

    10. What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?

    11. Reflect on a recent challenge and what you learned from it.

    12. List ten things that bring you joy and how you can experience them more often.

    13. What does success look like to you, and how has that definition changed over time?

    14. Write about a fear you’ve overcome and how you did it.

    15. Describe your perfect work-life balance and steps you can take to achieve it.

    These prompts are designed to encourage self-reflection, goal-setting, and personal growth. Feel free to adapt them or use them as inspiration for your own journaling practice. 

    There are many books that provide prompts. I like Soul Therapy by Jacqueline Kademian because it gives you 365 prompts, one for every day of the year. 

    Overcoming Common Journaling Challenges

    Journaling provides numerous benefits, but some women may encounter challenges, especially when getting started. Here are some common obstacles and ways to overcome them:

    Lack of Time

    Obviously time is a big concern. Before I started my journaling practice I thought, I don’t have time to journal every day! It felt very daunting. However, spend just 5 minutes a day writing. Even 5 minutes can be beneficial and then you can build upon that. Set a timer on your phone and add a minute each week. Begin writing and then stop when the timer goes off. You’d be surprised at how much you can express in a short time and how much you’ll want to expand. 

    Fear of Judgment

    As I mentioned before, one fear in journaling can be that someone would read your private thoughts. If this is a fear of yours, keep your journal in a secret place, get a Locked Diary or use a password-protected digital app. My Diary app. allows you to set a diary password and sync your journal to Google Drive or Dropbox. Remember your journal is only for you. As you write the judgment will melt away. 

    Writer’s Block

    You might be thinking? What am I going to write about? To address this you can use the above prompts, describe your day, or write down three things you are grateful for. You might be surprised how these simple methods can lead to deeper insights. 

    Perfectionism

    Raise your hand if you are a perfectionist (I am raising my hand). But journaling is not a place where you need to be perfect. The process of writing is much more important than the end product. And remember, no one is reading it. So drop the desire to create a literary masterpiece. Rest assured that someone else will win the Pulitzer Prize and get to writing.  

    Consistency

    This one is perhaps the hardest but most important to overcome. Do whatever you can to ensure you get a chance to write even just 1 sentence a day. It takes time to build a new habit but if you can commit to 5 minutes a day for a month, you’ll find that journaling embeds itself as a crucial part of your day. 

    The Long-Term Impact of Journaling

    As you continue your journaling practice, you may notice profound changes in various aspects of your life. Many women report increased self-confidence, better decision-making skills, and a greater sense of overall well-being after maintaining a journal for an extended period.

    Journaling can also serve as a record of your personal growth. Looking back on old entries can provide valuable insights into how far you’ve come and the progress you’ve made in different areas of your life.

    Moreover, the skills developed through journaling—such as self-reflection, emotional regulation, and creative problem-solving—can have a positive impact on your relationships, career, and personal goals.

    Conclusion

    Journaling is a powerful tool for personal growth, self-discovery, and emotional well-being. For women navigating the complexities of modern life, it offers a sanctuary for self-expression and a canvas for dreams and aspirations.

    Whether you’re seeking stress relief, clarity of thought, or a boost in creativity, journaling can be a transformative practice. By dedicating just a few minutes each day to putting your thoughts on paper, you’re investing in your mental, emotional, and even physical health.

    Remember, there’s no right or wrong way to journal. The most important thing is to start and to make it a consistent part of your routine. As you embark on your journaling journey, be patient with yourself and open to the insights and growth that will inevitably come.

    So, grab a pen and notebook, find a quiet corner, and begin exploring the vast landscape of your inner world. Your journal awaits, ready to be the confidant, cheerleader, and guide you’ve always needed. Happy writing!

    FAQs

    1. Are there different types of journaling?
      1. Yes. Some different types include bullet journaling, picture or video journaling, gratitude journaling, and reflective journaling. 
    2. Are there any drawbacks to journaling?
      1. Yes. However the benefits of journaling outweigh the drawbacks. Some potential drawbacks include, time consuming, getting stuck in difficult emotions, confronting feelings and situations you are not ready to manage. 
    3. Do I need special items to start a journaling practice?
      1. No. All you need is some paper and a pencil/pen. All the other items will just enhance your journal practice and allow for more creativity. 
    4. Is journaling time consuming?
      1. Yes. It can be. Depending on how much you want to dedicate to your practice. The morning pages can take up to 30 minutes a day but you can always start small. Commit to just writing one sentence a day. 
  • The Art of DIY Soy Candle Making: Essential Dos and Don’ts

    Okay. So my husband got me my first DIY Soy Candle Making Kit for Christmas. My first thought was, “great, one more ‘self-care’ task added to the list of things that are supposed to bring me joy but actually just collect dust in the corner.” But one snowy afternoon, I was bored and busted out the kit. It was so fun and easy! I loved mixing different fragrances, heating and pouring the wax and ending up with a great little candle.

    While it was easy, I did wish I had known some things beforehand. So here is a comprehensive guide that walks through the dos and don’ts of DIY candle making. Check out my tips for creating beautiful soy candles for yourself or as gifts. 

     

    The Dos of Soy Candle Making

    While the kit above is a great way to practice below are some suggestions for high-quality products to ensure your candles are not only eco-friendly but also a great overall product. 

    DO Choose High-Quality Materials

    When it comes to candle making, the quality of your materials directly impacts the final product. Opt for high-quality soy wax flakes, which are not only eco-friendly but also provide a clean burn. Select cotton wicks free from metal cores to ensure a safer, cleaner burn. Investing in quality fragrance oils. I love Eternal Essence Oils. They offer many different scent sets that smell so, so good!  Also if you are coloring your candles, ensure that you use natural dyes. You can get pre-colored wax (there are fabulous colors offered through The Candle Shop) or you can add your own all natural candle dye to the white soy wax flakes from above. 

    DO Use the Double Boiler Method

    One of the safest ways to melt soy wax is using the double boiler method. Here’s how:

    1. Fill a large pot with a few inches of water.

    2. Place a Candle Making Pouring Pitcher containing your soy wax flakes into the pot.

    3. Heat the water on medium, stirring the wax occasionally until it’s fully melted.

    This method provides more control over the temperature and reduces the risk of overheating or scorching the wax.

    DO Monitor Temperature Carefully

    Temperature control is crucial in candle making. Use a reliable Candle Making Thermometer to monitor the wax temperature throughout the process. Here are some key temperature points to remember:

    – Melt soy wax to 185°F (85°C).

    – Add fragrance oils when the wax cools to 175-185°F (79-85°C).

    – Pour the wax into containers when it reaches 130-155°F (54-68°C)[8].

    Adhering to these temperature guidelines ensures proper binding of fragrance oils and helps prevent issues like frosting or poor scent throw.

    DO Measure Ingredients Precisely

    Accuracy is key when it comes to creating consistent, high-quality candles. I cannot stress this enough. The first time I made my DIY candles I guesstimated  everything and they did not smell good. I also put the wax into the jars when it was too hot and they looked a little wanky. 

    After my first attempt I bought this digital kitchen scale and actually weighed the wax and oils. A general rule of thumb is to use about 1 oz (2 tablespoons) of fragrance oil per 12 oz of melted wax. 

    DO Prepare Your Containers Properly

    Before pouring your wax, ensure your containers are clean, dry, and at room temperature. I got these Thick Candle Jars. They come in a variety of different sizes and colors.  I even found these cute Patterned Tin Containers

    To prevent air bubbles and promote even cooling:

    1. Preheat your containers slightly (this can be done by placing them in a warm oven for a few minutes).

    2. Secure the wick to the bottom of the container using a dot of hot glue or these Wick Stickers.

    3. Use wick Centering Devices to keep the wick straight during pouring and cooling.

    DO Allow Proper Curing Time

    Patience is a virtue in candle making. After pouring your candles, allow them to cure for at least one week, preferably two, before burning. This curing period allows the fragrance to fully bind with the wax, resulting in a stronger scent when the candle is eventually lit.

    DO Trim Wicks Regularly

    Proper wick maintenance is essential for optimal burning and safety. Trim the wick to about 1/4 inch (6 mm) before each use. For soy candles specifically, you may want to trim even shorter, to about 1/8 inch, to prevent excessive smoking and uneven burning. You can use scissors or this nifty Wick Trimmer

    The Don’ts of Soy Candle Making

    Okay now that we covered the “dos” of candle making, let’s move into the don’ts. 

    DON’T Overheat the Wax

    Overheating soy wax can lead to discoloration, poor scent throw, and even safety hazards. Never melt soy wax directly over an open flame or in a microwave. Stick to the double boiler method and use a thermometer to prevent overheating.

    DON’T Add Fragrance at the Wrong Temperature

    I made this mistake the first time I created my candles. I added the essential oils too quickly and it resulted in a less fragrant candle. The second time I made candles, I waited a few minutes until the wax cooled to the recommended temperature (175-185°F) before adding my fragrance.

    DON’T Pour Wax When It’s Too Hot

    Pouring soy wax into containers while it’s still too hot can lead to shrinkage, sinkholes, and poor adhesion to the container. Again this goes back to patience and precision. Allow the wax to cool to the recommended pouring temperature (130-155°F) before filling your containers.

    DON’T Neglect Safety Precautions

    Candle making involves working with hot materials, so safety should always be a priority. Here are some essential safety tips:

    – Wear closed-toe shoes and long pants to protect against potential wax splashes.

    – Use heat-resistant gloves when handling hot containers (I have the finger burns to prove this one). 

    – Keep a fire extinguisher nearby.

    – Never leave melting wax unattended (especially if you have young children).

    DON’T Ignore Proper Ventilation

    Ensure your workspace is well-ventilated, especially when working with fragrance oils. Good air circulation helps dissipate any fumes and keeps your working environment comfortable.

    DON’T Use Containers Not Suitable for Candles

    Not all containers are safe for candle making. Use only containers specifically graded for candle use. These are designed to withstand the heat generated by burning candles without cracking or breaking.

    DON’T Forget to Test Your Candles

    Before gifting or selling your candles, always conduct burn tests to ensure they perform as expected. This involves burning the candle for several hours and observing how it melts, how strong the scent throw is, and whether there are any safety concerns. You just want to make sure that you are sharing a high-quality product. 

    Advanced Tips for Soy Candle Making

    Experimenting with Scents

    Once you’ve mastered the basics, try creating unique scent combinations. Keep a log of your experiments, noting the ratios of different fragrance oils and how they perform in your candles. This will help you develop signature scents over time.

    Check out my list of combinations to try. (insert chart here). 

    Decorative Techniques

    Enhance the visual appeal of your candles with these decorative ideas:

    – Layered candles: Pour different colored wax layers for a striking effect. You can use these different colored waxes either pre-colored or make your own colors using these all natural wax dyes

    – Embedded elements: Add dried flowers or herbs to the surface of your candles for a natural look.

    – Textured surfaces: Create interesting textures by manipulating the wax as it cools.

    – Add your own labels to the candle jar. These are super cute Label Stickers

    Troubleshooting Common Issues

    Even experienced candle makers encounter problems from time to time. Here are solutions to some common issues:

    – **Sinkholes**: If you notice little holes forming as the wax cools, try pouring at a slightly lower temperature or doing a second pour to fill in any gaps.

    – **Frosting**: This white, crystalline appearance on the surface of soy candles is natural and doesn’t affect performance. To minimize it, try pouring at a higher temperature or cooling the candles more slowly.

    – **Poor scent throw**: If your candles aren’t as fragrant as desired, try increasing the fragrance load slightly or experimenting with different types of fragrance oils. Also make sure you have high-quality fragrances. 

    Environmental and Health Benefits of Soy Candles

    Choosing soy wax for your candle-making projects offers several advantages:

    – **Renewable resource**: Soy is a sustainable, biodegradable material.

    – **Cleaner burn**: Soy candles produce less soot than paraffin alternatives.

    – **Longer burning time**: Soy wax typically burns slower than paraffin, offering more value.

    – **Lower melting point**: This makes soy candles safer and easier to clean up if spilled.

    Conclusion

    DIY soy candle making is a fulfilling hobby that allows you to create personalized, eco-friendly home fragrances. By following these dos and don’ts, you’ll be well on your way to crafting beautiful, safe, and aromatic candles. Remember that practice makes perfect, so don’t be discouraged if your first attempts aren’t flawless. With patience and attention to detail, you’ll soon be creating candles that rival those found in high-end boutiques.

    As you continue your candle-making journey, always prioritize safety, experiment with new techniques, and most importantly, enjoy the creative process. Whether you’re making candles for personal use, as gifts, or even considering starting a small business, the skills you develop will serve you well in creating high-quality soy candles that bring warmth and fragrance to any space.